Single 50s

Fellas, if you're in your 50s, single and dating and feeling like you're not getting anywhere , consider this a little friendly feedback from the ladies. Maybe you've heard it all before, maybe it doesn't apply to you, maybe you've got the dating thing down -- it doesn't matter. When it comes to women and dating, I say you can never know enough. And women, lest you think you're off the hook, you're not.

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They are calling us the ''silver singles''. It is not a term that I - nor, I suspect, anyone else not coupled-up in their fifties - is that keen on. It makes us sound like we spend our evenings forlornly signalling to each other across a creaky old dance floor by waving our Zimmer frames, while our hearing aids whistle shrilly above the Val Doonican. Being over 50 is not old, these days. I know fiftysomething women who are running marathons, starting businesses I even met one recently who had just won her class in an Iron Man contest basically a triathlon on steroids for age But there is a definite demographic shift going on when it comes to our relationships.

New figures show that while the divorce rate continues to fall overall, the trend is not mirrored by the over-fifties. We are now the only group whose divorce rate is actually rising.

At 51 years old and single, I am now part of a growing group surfing a zeitgeistian wave of plus freedom. And, in my experience, this is the best age yet for flying solo. In my teens, I waited by the phone for a boy, any boy, to call.

In my twenties it was all high drama, getting my heart broken and dating rotters. During my thirties, my biological clock meant I needed a partner if I wanted children. My forties were spent dealing with the romantic hangover of my thirties - divorce and being a single parent to small children. Being single in my fifties feels like I've finally got myself back. There is such a joy to being able to do whatever you want without permission.

I now shudder when I hear a woman say, "I'll have to ask my husband". I finally understand my Great Aunt Florence, who never married and lived alone in a cottage by the sea, happily collecting cat ornaments.

Her life was completely uncompromised and I can entirely relate to her contentment. It's not easy for everyone. As a nutritionist and hypnotherapist, I see many fiftysomething women.

They come to me because they want to lose their menopausal tummies. Yet, dig a little deeper, and what they really want to divest themselves of is the big lump in the armchair called their husband. Their comfort eating and drinking is often a symptom of their unhappiness - but a fear of being alone stops them from tackling the real problem. I am lucky though. My mother is pretty self-sufficient, for now. My children are becoming more independent and this is my golden time.

I can do as I please. I don't have to go to boring business dinners as a plus-one, or schlep up the motorway to visit someone else's parents.

I don't have to cook "his" dinner or do "his" washing. I can be fabulously, unashamedly selfish. I can go on holiday when and where I want, I can eat the food I fancy and spend my money exactly as I please. Of course, having three children, aged nine, 13 and 16, does clip my wings a bit. And indeed, concern for them is another important factor in why I am not flinging myself at the first available man. After divorce number two, my eldest made me promise "no more step-dads".

But, even if that were an option having teen children is a pretty good boyfriend repellent, I find , I am still very, very picky. Do we fancy fewer people as we get older? Or maybe our patience for bad or boring behaviour is lessened by the ebbing of a biological need or ability to reproduce.

It certainly takes courage to be single in your fifties. Those who remain married into their fifth decade can sometimes wear their marriage like a status symbol.

But role models for a new normal are emerging. Twice-divorced Carol Vorderman, 55, recently talked about being "happily single" saying that she was finally revelling in doing her own thing and running on her own "clock". Thrice-married actress Kim Cattrall, who celebrated her 60th birthday this year, says of her single status: "You know so much more about what you want and what you don't want and what you'll put up with.

I feel in that area, romantically, retired. I did register with a well-known online dating site a while back. It promised to match me with my perfect partner. The only "matches" that came back were men 10 to 15 years older than me.

So, the question I asked myself before going ahead was not "do I fancy him? It wasn't hard to answer. How much more time you have when you're not looking after a partner.

The only men who will answer your online dating ad will be over pension age. If a younger man claims to prefer older women he is: a still living with his parents and needs a woman with her own place; b is using you to avoid dating a woman in her thirties who wants children; c is after your money. You will no longer get invited to dinner parties, but that's OK because they are boring anyway. Having a dog will not help you attract a partner as you may have been advised in your twenties.

However, it will link you up with many slightly mad dog-loving women of a certain age, who wear fleeces and are an absolute hoot. Why 50 is the best age to be single. Lowri Turner , Dec 08

Meet Jaimie Seaton. She's a writer and editor who's been published in The Washington Post, Oprah's O Magazine, and Marie Claire. She's also a divorced. Today more women in their 50s are living alone than ever before, and according Single people are healthier than their married counterparts.

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Today, more women in their 50s are living alone than ever before, and according to the Office of National Statistics, solo living is more common among older women than men.

Remember that very first date? Sweaty palms. Awkward conversation.

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This story is excerpted and adapted from "Highs in the Low Fifties" skirt! I am one of them. I bet most of them, like me, initially thought things were going to go just great in their second or third or fourth round of finding true love. In my case, it was a man I'll call William. I met him at a party. He seemed okay in a California-y way: bouncy, healthy, upbeat, and the author of an unpublished New Age novel I hoped never to read. Two days later he called to ask me out. Well, why not, I thought. My approach, especially since I'd already abandoned online dating, was to stay open to possibility. William said he'd like to take me to the show but warned me he'd have to order the cheapest tickets available because finances were an issue.

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Oh, yay: I'm single in my 50s

They are calling us the ''silver singles''. It is not a term that I - nor, I suspect, anyone else not coupled-up in their fifties - is that keen on. It makes us sound like we spend our evenings forlornly signalling to each other across a creaky old dance floor by waving our Zimmer frames, while our hearing aids whistle shrilly above the Val Doonican. Being over 50 is not old, these days. I know fiftysomething women who are running marathons, starting businesses I even met one recently who had just won her class in an Iron Man contest basically a triathlon on steroids for age But there is a definite demographic shift going on when it comes to our relationships. New figures show that while the divorce rate continues to fall overall, the trend is not mirrored by the over-fifties. We are now the only group whose divorce rate is actually rising. At 51 years old and single, I am now part of a growing group surfing a zeitgeistian wave of plus freedom. And, in my experience, this is the best age yet for flying solo. In my teens, I waited by the phone for a boy, any boy, to call.

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